12.08.2009

[choices]


Time for a totally unrelated post. except in that writing reflects life and life revolves around love. Anyone up for offering a little advice for a friend?

Hypothetical scenario: Boy falls for girl, but girl is a little too young for him. She's intrigued by the idea of dating an older guy and quickly comes to care for him a great deal. She goes away to school, he moves away to a new job. They live across the country from one another but they stay together, determined to make it work until they can live together in a few years.

Six months later, Girl is off at college and has met lots of cool people. She still has feelings for Boy, but she has lots of fun things to do and people to hang out with. Other boys express interest that are close at hand. She cares for Boy, and she knows he's head over heels for her. She doesn't want to hurt him, but she wants to do things other than constantly wish he were there. They drift apart.

Boy is stressed out. He knows that she's thinking about calling things off. When pressed, she says she needs time to think things over. He senses impending heartbreak. He is left with three choices:

1. Call things off himself. It would make it easier on her, he knows, because she wants to do it herself but just can't bear to hurt him. This would be intensely painful, but at least it would put an end to the waiting and the dreading. The pain would be more immediate and he would be in control of the situation, for the most part. There is also a chance that this would sabotage what little possibility there is that they might stay together in the end.

2. Give her the time and space she needs and wait it out. Maybe things will work out. She'll realize that he's really awesome and she's lucky to have him in her life, even if it's only at a distance. Or, maybe she'll call things off anyway and he'll only have postponed the inevitable, but at least he didn't do it himself. This scenario offers no control or opportunity to influence the situation one way or the other.

3. Fight tooth and nail to keep her. Fly out to her, no matter the cost. Get down on bended knee and pledge his love. Send her flowers, gifts, everything he can think of. This may be successful, but it may also push her farther away if what she really needs is space. Or maybe she just says she wants space, but deep down really she just wants him to prove that he loves her? And if distance is the thing ruining the relationship, then it won't get better any time soon. Will they just be in this same spot a month from now?

Until he can decide, he is waiting in limbo for her other shoe to fall. Each conversation they have is worse than the last and only causes more pain and tears. He mopes around, unable to think of anything except how likely it is that he is about to lose the girl he loves, no matter how much his friends try to distract him and cheer him up.

What do you think, friends? What should our hero do in this situation?


12.07.2009

[stress]


My stress level is through the roof right now. The major reason is that I chose this past Fall to become a professional photographer, just before the Christmas season got into full swing. I am beginning to think this was a mistake. Working 60+ hours with one day off a week is starting to wear on me.

The other reason is that, because my stress at work is so great and my exhaustion is so complete, I haven't been able to write a single word. Even substantive blog posts seem to elude me right now. I'm just so tired. I feel like my brain was sucked out with a straw when I get home at night. And even if it hadn't been, I'd only have an hour or so before I needed to be asleep to get up and do it again tomorrow.

So I was thinking about the ways that people can manage stress and keep themselves sane and healthy. I've come up with a few things I do (but they don't really help that much).

1. Creative Outlets: I love to write. It's an escape, an indulgence, and it gets a totally different part of my brain flowing when the Muse is really working. I have also mentioned before, I believe that I love to do counted cross stitch. This isn't the most "creative" endeavor, since it basically consists of following someone else's pattern, but just the act of creating something is therapeutic. This takes up time, though.

2. Vitamin B: You should always take a multivitamin, of course, but additional B6 and B12 supplements can really make a difference in your physical health and energy levels. This is a much better way to stay alert and focused than most people's preferred method: caffeine. I usually stick with Red Bull, which has plenty of both!

3. Humor: This is the primary way that my coworkers and I deal with the stress of our job. At the end of the night, when all the customers are gone and we have at least an hour to clean up after them, we tend to really act like idiots and laugh a lot. This is a combination of being so stuffy all day and suffering from exhausted delirium. If someone were to film us, they would probably assume we were high.

4. Video Games: My brother prefers the violent persuasion, but I have recently picked up an old favorite: Pokemon! I have my old GameBoy and the Yellow Edition at the ready. I even carry it with me and use it on my lunch break. Meanwhile, Sam is playing Gears of War or BioShock and hacking people up with random melee weapons. Whatever floats your boat.

5. Reading: Usually, this would be a very good outlet for me. When the studio was getting progressively more cramped by the day a few weeks ago, I wasn't stressed at all because I was in the process of reading The Mortal Instruments. But, I recently began reading Stephen King's new work, Under the Dome. It may actually be contributing to my stress level right now. I'm even tempted to stop reading, but I think I'll finish it out and then make my decision.

But, on the upside of life right now, a few people have liked my most recent post with an excerpt from my latest WIP. If you haven't read it yet, please take a moment to and let me know what you think. As for my first novel that was previously being rewritten... well it's back in editing again. I hated the 15,000 words that I managed to rewrite. Moreover I hated the fact that I wasted 15,000 words on a doomed effort. Ugh...

Well, I'm off to play Pokemon Yellow while I forget about the fact that I have to go back to work tomorrow. Thank God I don't have kids yet!

How do you all deal with the stress in your life?

12.04.2009

[ariel]

Just a short post today with an excerpt from the beginning of my latest WIP, "The Bonded." This is my first attempt at a YA fantasy but I am thoroughly enjoying it so far. Ariel has really come alive for me and become a great new voice in my head.

Please rip this to shreds. Also, since this is relatively experimental for me, answer a couple of questions if you do have time to read it:

1.) Would you keep reading if you picked this up and this was the first page?

2.) What do you think of the voice, syntax, etc.?



The Bonded

You know what I remember the most about our house? The laughter. Man, we used to laugh constantly at one another. My mom would start out with something serious, like, “Let’s turn off the TV and clean up,” and then my brother would crack on it in his smart-alec way, like, “Let’s turn off your mouth and shut up!” We were always laughing.

That’s why I call it, with a bitter chuckle, “The Day the Laughter Stopped.”

But who needs to laugh, right? They say it’s good medicine or some shit, but I ain’t sick. What I am is broke, but no amount of laughin’s gonna fix that.

I’m Ariel, Ariel Albemarle. I’m sure you think I’m cute. Everyone does. But don’t let that fool you. Just ‘cause my outside’s small don’t mean I can’t whoop your ass if it needs it.

Oh, who am I kidding? I’m not really that kid. Why start off lying to you about who I am, when you’re never going to believe most of my story anyway? That’s just my face for these gangbanging drug-dealers so they’ll leave me alone. It’s hard out here, has been ever since that day.

Well I wasn’t thinking about that this particular day. I had a big job that night. Some guy was paying 3Gs for this product that I picked up from Antoine the week before. This was really going to make up for a hole in my monthly budget. I hated buying things from him ‘cause the cops were always right on his tail. But, it made his prices really low. He had to unload everything he picked up fast. So I grabbed this little gem for next to nothing.

In the meantime, I headed back to the crib. Technically, it’s a dump, but I liked to call it an apartment. It was just a room in the basement of an actual apartment building, but I had a futon, a laptop, a mini fridge and a microwave, a thirteen inch TV with cable, and even high-speed internet. It was like being in a college dorm, or that’s what they tell me. The rent was only 50 a month, a steal in this town. Nevermind the grey cinderblock walls. I had some movie posters up and stuff. The landlord let me use the building super’s bathroom and shower. It was okay. I had what I needed.

I had stopped going to school a while before that. I mean, they couldn’t make me and I hated it, so why would I? I was sixteen by that time, and even then I didn’t need people breathing down my neck. I kept fed and I kept clean, and I stayed out of the way. People left me alone; that’s how I liked it.

So this particular day I went back to my place and locked all three bolts on the door, like always. I plugged in my cell, glanced at the computer monitor, and then I checked under the futon for the little red lockbox.

And there was a little man under there!

I mean, it! A man no more than six inches tall. I just about jumped out of my skin. I think I yelled something, probably a curse.

“What are you?!” I shouted.

“I’m a pixie, what does it look like?!” he yelled back. As if that would’ve been obvious to me. He hovered (yes, hovered, it couldn’t have been flying cause he didn’t have any wings) out from under the couch and onto my desk. I slid backward on the floor to stay away from him.

“Why are you in my apartment?” I said as calmly as I could manage.

“Well before you so rudely interrupted me, I was using the computer,” he said without looking back at me. He was leaned over on the keyboard, reaching to each key with a tiny hand as he typed out an address in the web bar. In the back of my mind I noticed that he had no color around him, but it wasn’t the main thing on my mind.

“You use computers?”

“Of course, I’m small not stupid.” I suppose I was starting to relax a little because I stood up and walked closer to the desk so I could see what page he was loading. Maybe my curiosity just got the better of my good sense.

It was Facebook.

“Pixies have Facebook pages?”

He just sighed dramatically and went about his browsing. It occurred to me that I didn’t know if the box under the futon was there. I panicked briefly, but I looked and it was. I pulled it out and looked inside. Everything was in its place.

“So, you just popped in to use the computer?”

“Yes, does that offend you?” Now he was pushing the mouse around with the force of his entire body.

“Um, no. Why would you come here? Don’t you know where the library is?”

He sighed again in that very dramatic way, but finally turned to face me and spoke, “If I went to a library, there would be lots of people there. I don’t want them to see me.”

“Well, first of all, no one goes to the library. And second... I’ve seen you,” I said, and I swallowed as I spoke. Would he have to kill me now?

“I’m not going to kill you that would be ridiculous. But you’re a sixteen-year-old high school dropout with no family who deals drugs on the street. Who’s going to believe you if you tell anyone?” He went back to the screen, scratching his little chin as he looked over the info page of a blonde girl, looked to be about thirty. I’d never seen her before.

“Right. Well, I won’t tell anyone anyway. I’m good at keeping secrets,” I said. I guess I was trying to get him to tell me something. I mean, this was the first supernatural creature I’d ever met. After I got over the first bit of shock I was really very curious.

“I already know that. Can you be quiet for a minute?” I nodded and sat down in my office chair behind him. He clicked from page to page to page and finally closed the internet window. He started floating towards the door and I stepped in front of him.

“Hey, where ya going?”

“I’m going to do my job, little girl. Kindly leave me to it,” he said as he dodged past my head and made for the door again. I threw myself in front of the door. I can’t really tell you why.

“Wait, can’t you… at least tell me more about you? I did let you use my computer.”

This close to him I could see his face more clearly. If he had been full-size, I would’ve said he was about fifty years old, tiny blue eyes that were bright despite their size, and salt and pepper hair in little curls around his face. He was wearing a brown tweed jacket, unbuttoned, with matching pants and a light yellow shirt. His brown shoes were carefully polished and he carried a little pixie-sized notepad in his left hand.

“I don’t need your permission to leave, nitwit!” In a little flash of light he vanished, and I saw another flash at the same time outside through my tiny window. The little man floated up into the sky and away.

The only excuse I have for my next actions is that I was 16. I was naturally curious, very excited to find something that was actually “supernatural,” plus I had time to kill before my 9p.m. appointment.

So I went back to my computer and opened my Explorer window. My small friend hadn’t thought to erase his browser history.



12.03.2009

[x-mas]

Here's the rub... I hate Christmas. Wait, wait, don't stone me!! Let me explain...

Stephanie's Group Blog topic for this week was about Christmas Shopping. More specifically, whether you like shopping at the store or online. I like to give gifts, but since I work at the mall now, I really, really hate shopping in the stores. When I'm off, I want to be anywhere else! But, I can't bring myself to buy most things without touching them first, so online is not an option. You see my problem.

So I have to deal with the Christmas crowds and pick over the empty shelves to find my presents (which I have not begun to do yet, by the way). And the more I wander about, fighting for that particular item that is the only thing I can buy for the Dad-Who-Has-Every-Tool-Ever, the more I am enraged.

It's not the shopping that pisses me off. It's not the crowds, or even the traffic. It's the reason behind the whole thing. Call me a pessimist, or cynical, or just plain jaded, but this is how I see it:


Christmas disgusts me. Black Friday I couldn't even park at work because our lot is so close to the mall. I had to park a good quarter-mile away and walk down a four-lane highway to get there. And it's not because everyone wants to give the people they love gifts. You know you can do that anytime, right? For most consumers, they give gifts at Christmas because they feel obligated to do so.

I don't feel special if you stuff a random gift card (or worse yet, cash) in a Christmas card because you don't know me well enough to buy me something I don't already have or might like. In fact you don't even know enough about me to know that I have a "Universal Wish List of Everything I Want" on Amazon that would give you every option from $10 -$30,000. You couldn't be bothered. But you felt like you had to give me something, because that's what's expected, and so I get a pile of cards instead of thoughtful gifts.

Well I don't want your stupid gift cards! And if I don't know you well enough to buy an actual present, you're not getting diddly squat from me this year. Don't be offended. I'll probably still send you a card.

Now, there are people that still celebrate Christmas the way it should be. They spend time with loved ones (which is the best gift), give gifts because they enjoy the act of giving (not because they are expected to or because they want something in return), and might actually *gasp* believe in the religious aspects as well.

But, those people are few and far between. 'Tis the season to spend time with people you don't like, give them crap you wasted money on, and get a free day off from work.

Please remember the real reason for Christmas, the reason we give gifts to family and friends, and the reason we all gather together to share food and warmth and comfort. It's not greed, or someone else's expectations. It's LOVE.












P.S. - Stop saying "Xmas." It's offensive. Do you really think "Christ" and "X" are interchangable terms? It doesn't take that long to type out "Christmas." Jeez...